Natural is Not Always Better

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Sometimes I get sick of the fighting and selfishness that is so prevalent some days in my house.  I think I'll scream if I hear another, "He pushed me, he kicked me first,  or he took what I was playing with."  And if I see someone shove past someone on the stairs, take the coveted seat in the living room, or grab the biggest cookie I think I just might do something crazy. 

I've contemplated whether I get bent out of shape too easily over things that are natural for kids to do. Then I was reading from I John 4:7,8 which says, "Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, for God is love." This loving business sounds mighty important, and showing kindness is an act of love.

Continuing on in I John 4: 9, 10 it says, "This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins." God gave us the ultimate act of kindness when through his love he sent Jesus into this world to take the punishment for our sin. Jesus willingly gave up his desires to make our lives worth living. He thought of us over himself.

In order for our children to become like Christ, they too must become selfless. That definitely is not natural. It is not human nature. In I John 4:11, 12 John continues to plead with his readers, "Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us." By teaching my children to exhibit love and kindness, I am guiding them towards choosing the path of completeness and wholeness made possible through Christ in them.

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It is natural to choose self. Perhaps that's why John spends so much time telling us that we must love. He says it over and over. We are hard-headed, self-willed people. We need things enforced and re-enforced so we get the message. Thus I will not give up in teaching my children to show kindness and love. I will say it over and over. And I will continue to have them practice showing kindness to each other. After all, what is natural is not always better.

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  1. PeggyNovember 29, 2011 at 8:26 PM

    This is right where we are as a family, too. We are working on memorizing 1 Corinthians 13:4-.... one verse a week. We also are using that for our handwriting practice.

    I have come to realize that most of our issues deal with not loving one another as Christ commands us to. Also, with loving self, more than others...

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  2. UnknownNovember 30, 2011 at 9:42 PM

    I have less than 1/2 of your crew- three little boys - and they fight as much as they can, but they are learning - I am so happy to see the miracle God is working in our home! you can read about it and about our adoption story if you'd like on my page- nice to meet you! :)

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