Tuesday, June 11, 2013

From Dependence to Dependence



This is the graduation speech that Ryan delivered to his graduating class a year ago.  If any of you know our son, he is shy, reserved, and quiet.  Yet he stood up there in front of several hundred and delivered this speech.  It became utterly still in that gymnasium when he began talking about God at the end of his speech.  As his mother, I cried. God was taking my boy and making a man out of him.  Isn't that what parenting is all about?  We have to trust God with our feeble human efforts, and He then does His work.


From Dependence to Dependence
Graduation June of 2012
by Ryan Miller

Today, the lines that have connected us to our parents are diminishing. We will no longer be completely reliant on our parents or guardians, but rather increasingly independent. I know that I and my fellow students have worked long and hard for this moment. It makes me tremble to think that we finally made it. For that reason, let me cut to the point.

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Despite the diminishing lines of dependence, we can never become completely independent. Consider this, our parents and teachers have worked just as hard or harder to get us to where we are today. They have labored through the thick and the thin, spent long hours thinking about us, and shed tears over us. They have been there for us when we most needed them. And for those of us without parents, we undoubtedly had someone  else who served in their place. We cannot escape dependence. So instead, we should look on dependence as a need that fills a void in the human heart. It is a great privilege to have such wonderful people to  fill that void. None of us would be here today if it was not for them.

My mom probably thought she would never live to hear me say this, but I would like to thank her from the bottom of my heart for teaching me grammar from that horrid text book! And my Dad I would like to thank for showing me how to love God with all my heart. And I would like to thank my English teachers in this school for showing me how to love writing. Honestly, I thought that I would never like anything except math and science! I would also like to thank Mr. Leddy, Mrs. Nelson, and Mrs. Lackey among many others for their devotion to teaching to the best of their abilities. Honestly, I do not think that any graduation speech could truly thank parents, grandparents, guardians, teachers, or administrators enough for their work!

However, the most important factor that got me to this point in life, was my faith in Christ Jesus. God was the one that I looked to when I could not sleep because of a test. He was the one that picked me up when I could not see the way. When I was frustrated, he calmed my soul. When I was thirsty, he gave me something to drink. It is God that I thank for being there when others could not.

As each of us sets out into the unknown, remember that we cannot run away from dependence. After all, children must rely on their parents; employees rely on their employers; and even the government must rely on the people to keep them in power. And ultimately, each and every person is dependent on God.
I can guarantee that each and every one of us will run into hard times. When those times come, place your dependence on God instead of earthly things. Do not place God on a dusty old shelf where you cannot see him. Instead, look to Him as the only way to success!

Monday, June 10, 2013

A Subject I've Avoided

Homeschooling...it's a subject that I've hesitated to address on my blog.  Why?  I guess mostly because I've been scared of a backlash.  I don't like to stir up controversy.  I am not an expert on the subject.  I don't have all  the answers, and many people will not agree with our decisions.    

There was a time when I thought I had answers.  I was extremely opinionated.  That was my early days of homeschooling.  Then the days passed, life happened, and I found myself the one searching for answers.

In the next several posts, I thought I would share some questions we have faced or are facing concerning schooling.  I'm not sharing with any agenda in mind or to try to persuade anyone to do what we have done.  Rather, I'm sharing because the schooling of our children is a personal but important decision that each family has to make.  I want to encourage you to pray about the decisions you make concerning your children, and then trust God with the outcome.    

A big question we faced five years ago was what to do about high school?  I was buried in trying to keep up with my six younger students, and the thought of trying to create a high school transcript overwhelmed me.  Although I had primarily handled schooling decisions, my husband decided that we would use a virtual public high school.  I had my reservations.  What about the liberal curriculum?  Were we bringing the devil into our home as some homeschool advocates claimed?  I was nervous.

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What was the result of our decision?  Last year our oldest son graduated from IQ Academy here in our state.  He was salutatorian of his class.  He gave a God-centered speech to a crowd of several hundred.  He was unashamed of who he was and who he believed in. (Ryan's speech.) 

During his four years of high school, he learned many ideas that were not in line with the Bible.  He often discussed these ideas at great length with us, and he debated them with his teachers and fellow students.  One teacher in particular was an atheist.  He had lengthy e-mail discussions with him, and it did not destroy his faith.  Instead it strengthened it.  He learned to give an answer to those who asked for a reason for the hope that was within him.

There was one aspect of our children's virtual education that I greatly appreciated as a parent.  I had an observer account.  I could read any and all of the curriculum.  I could listen to class sessions.  I could read the correspondence between my children and their teachers.  I was informed.  This is something that is not always easily accessible through the brick and mortar public schools.

We did encounter modern literature that was simply unacceptable for reading.  Honestly, I was horrified at what they called literature.  It was full of sex, foul language, and violence.  However, every time the teachers allowed us to choose other books to read as a substitute.   For instance my children were allowed to read Little Britches and Pride and Prejudice in place of the curriculum choices.

Our daughter will be a senior next year and will have completed all of her high school years at IQ Academy as well.  She has a 4.0 GPA so far.  Due to the flexibility of the online school schedule, she has been able to focus on other activities she loves.  She uses her creativity to do extensive writing and to decorate cakes.  The cake decorating is starting to produce an income for her that will help her attend college.

Overall, our experience with the virtual school has been positive, but we also know that what works for one family doesn't always work for another family.  What works for one child, also does not necessarily work for another child.  Oh, how well we know that, but that's a subject for another post. 

Thursday, May 30, 2013

What Love Looks Like

Love is...

A hug
A listening ear
Eyes gazing back at me

A hand held
An arm around my shoulder
A leg pressed next to mine

A gentle touch
A soft spoken word
A thoughtful deed

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 Love is...

Overlooking the little faults
Seeing what I desire to become
Appreciating who God is making me

Age enhancing allure
Viewing through the lens of God
A redefined beauty

Thinking of the other first
Putting self last
Living God's plan

Love is...

God
His example
His gifts

Christ in you
God's gift to me
A precious treasure


Remembering 21 years ago today...
Happy Anniversary to the Man God gave me!









Wednesday, May 29, 2013

A Memorial on Memorial Day

A moment froze in time.
A gift from God.
A memory on Memorial Day.

Traveling home from visiting family,
Basking in the special moments,
Thanking God for blessings.

Games played.
Laughter enjoyed.
Hugs given.

My life is rich.
My heart is bursting.
My cup is full and spilling over.

To the south
A cemetery
Bathed in rays of sun.



A family there
Remembering a loved one--
The grave bright with flowers.

Their loved one gone.
Mine are here.
I feel a twinge of guilt.

I pray they had many sweet memories
Of happy times
With their beloved.

To the north
A bank of storm clouds
captures my eye.

Tall towers of white cloud
Illuminated on top
Dark underneath.

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Spectacular
Breathtaking
Awesome

From the backseat--a voice
"Look at that bank of clouds!"
A spontaneous burst of praise explodes from his lips.

"Behold, He comes..."

And my heart sings

Thank you for this moment
A remembrance of you
The Giver of all that is good.

Thank you for the gift
of your coming into this world
to give us hope.

Thank you for this memory
when I'm reminded
that you are coming again.

A God-built memorial on Memorial Day.